An open minded and introspective look into humanity

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My aim with this blog is to hopefully open minds, and broaden perspectives. Perspectives pertaining to anything from society, to sexuality, to religion, and much much more. I hope you enjoy yourself.


The inherent selfishness of human interaction

Forming relationships, maintaining relationships, and achieving growth within relationships regardless of the nature of the relationship has always been a difficult task for myself, along with many others of a similar mind state. That being said, it wasn’t always this way for myself, and I’m sure the same can be said about others. From the onset of early adulthood, I soon came to understand unfettered human nature. Human nature outside of the A-typical boundaries and bondage of adolescent life. Outside of the guise of conformity, outside of the guise of any form of slavery; be it religion, philosophy, the influence of others, and the like.

Human interaction in its most broken down state, is inherently selfish. People need to be validated. People need to feel wanted, loved, appreciated, valued. The act of wanting another persons love, the act of wanting another person’s validation, simply put the act of wanting another person’s energy, is purely selfish. The best relationships occur when there is an even balance of energy expended, to energy taken. Every interaction, every conversation, either consciously or unconsciously is about personal gain.

Even the act of seeking out peers, or people that share the same hobbies and/or interests as you is for your own gain and gratification. The desire to see someone smile or laugh is never wholly altruistic. You made that person smile, you made that person laugh. Such an act is one of equal exchange.

Think of the “kindest”person you know. The person you think is the most giving, the most altruistic, selfless, and any other pseudo-synonym for a “nice” person. Aforementioned person may indeed be selfless, but it is impossible for anyone to truly be selfless. Underneath the guise of kindness and tenderheartedness, is an underlying selfish motivation. Conscious or otherwise, that base motivation remains. People take personal pleasure, and internally gloat at their good deed. Some people take pleasure in being more giving than others, some people simply take pleasure in being kind.

However, that does not necessarily make every interaction, every relationship worthless. If you strive to recognize your own selfishness, strive to recognize the selfishness present in those around you, and use those measurements as a basis for the relationships you form, you may find yourself with better relationships. Platonic or otherwise.


Morality and the human ego


Morality, both people’s morals and the concept therein, is a fairly sensitive and provocative subject. People tend to get not only judgemental, but defensive when you bring up their morals. No matter the subject, 80% of the time the individuals opinions, regardless of orientation on the left or right political and religious spectrum are founded upon their morals. Morals that they are so deeply entrenched in, that their opinion or view on the subject in question rarely wavers, even with mounting evidence pointing in the exact opposite direction. This is not only very unhealthy, but very mentally detrimental to us as sentient beings. The human ego drives us to want to be right. It drives us to want to be superior in most all ways. It doesn’t necessarily have to be obvious, but even on a subconscious level, we want to be right. This is a harmful behavior in more ways than mental development, but that is a subject for a different article entirely.

So entrenched we are in the thought that we have to be right, that a good majority of the opposing view is rarely absorbed at all. Everyone is guilty of this. Everyone has an ego, regardless of severity. Do we not want to grow as people? Do we not want to evolve into a better person? It seems so obvious. Of course I want to grow as a person, who wouldn’t?  It seems so ridiculous when you look at it from this perspective. Of course nothing is a black and white subject, but with morality, there is hardly a grey area. This is especially prominent in Judaeo-christian schools of thought. Morality revolves complete around the concept of Black and White.

The problem is this; morality does not exist. Morality as a concept, as a word, and as some sort of pseudo “moral compass” does exist, but as a “god given, embedded since birth” sense of right and wrong, does not exist. If that were the case, if morality was a set in stone set of principles and guidelines, they would not fluctuate with the historical period so heavily.

Look at Judaeo-Christianity for example. If morals were in fact a “god given, embedded since birth” sense of right and wrong, slavery would be legal. Colossians 3:22-24 – “Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

There are many more abhorrent examples of this in the Christian bible. The convenient excuse for these “old testament” laws being abolished, and no longer enforced, is “god” sacrificing his son (himself) to die for humanities sin, thus making all sin forgivable simply with a prayer. But this is just that, an excuse. The creators of Christianity foresaw that their ridiculous set of writing and rules would not be able to continue with the advancement of society, therefore altering them to be more modern and believable.

Throughout history, morals and values have changed from generation to generation, from empire to empire, from historical period to historical period. During the roman empire, pedophilia and homosexuality were considered normal and perfectly acceptable. Incest was normal. During the early stages of Americas development, the rape and murdering of Native Americans was considered completely acceptable

The concept of morality, the concept of “right and wrong” can be attributed to common sense, chiefly among other things. It is common sense, and human selfishness to not want to hurt someone else out of fear for retaliation. It is common sense to not want to have enemies out of fear for more obstacles on your own personal journey to success. It is common sense to not want to own another human being as an object, as they are not one.